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I don’t think any of us ever invite our “friend” rejection in our lives, but somehow from time to time it shows up at our doorstep. Over the past few weeks, it has shown up at my doorstep with freshly picked flowers. This Truth Tuesday I want to tell you about rejection, how I’m learning to take the flowers out of its hand and rejecting its advances.
I initially started writing this blog by telling the story of the two incidents in which I felt rejected. I was coming from a place of hurt and anger. If I’m being honest, I wanted to use my words to inflict a small amount of pain on those people. Then it hit me, how will that help me heal this wound? It wouldn’t! So, I decided to take a different approach.
I thought about my previous interactions/relationship with them, and there lied my answer. The rejection I felt didn’t surprise me, instead it hurt. Sometimes, we put ourselves in hurtful situations and then try to mask it with our self righteousness while throwing blame at others.
So, what did I learn from rejection?
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. I know this quote has become overused, but it’s very true. I knew what I was getting myself into, and neither parties veered from who they’ve always shown themselves to be.
Secondly, I decided not to play the victim. Remember I said “Rejection” showed up at my doorstep with flowers? I took the flowers, but not in the sense of playing along with its charade. I used them as a way to signify the blooming of my personal growth. We tend to give flowers to celebrate things in life, and as corny as it may sound, I’m giving myself permission to celebrate my growth in this situation. I’d be lying if I said I won’t think of either of these situations again and have old feelings resurface, but the key is to acknowledge them and move on from it.
Have you ever experienced rejection? If so, how did you deal with it?
Until next time loves…